As a new year rolls around, it has all of us planning for change. Instead of creating “New Year’s resolutions” I’m shaking up the status quo and directing my attention to what I desire! Very often we create goals because we believe when we achieve them we will feel happy, fulfilled, or (insert another feeling here). At the start of a new year, we have so much hope more than any other time of the year. “Maybe this will be the year I lose 10 pounds.” “This will be the year I travel abroad.”
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news but you are doing it all wrong! Here is a better way to bring in the new year to create change in your life.
Another Year, Another You
- Figure out how you want to feel
A great resource I use to do this is Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map. It is a book/workbook that gives prompts to assist you in deciding how you want to feel in all areas of your life. She provides many examples of feelings. It will have you excited about all the possibilities for them in your life. - Make the decision to have these feelings be your ultimate aim
They are an intention you set for your state of mind and your state of emotions. An outside goal, whether completed or failed, should not affect your desired state. - Create goals that will assist you in staying in these feelings
Remember, feelings have energy. By aligning our thoughts with what we truly want to feel, we use our mind to solve issues and create circumstances that agree with our desires. - Reevaluate when necessary
You change, life changes – don’t be afraid to speak up for what you want. You are the ultimate decider for how you want your life to feel, look, and be.
My 5 core desired feelings:
- Poise
- Communion
- Space
- Vibrant
- Creative
I got these from going through Danielle LaPorte’s Desire Map Workbook. Your desires are all your own. You hold the definition of the words in you. For me, the words above conjure up specific feelings I wish to embody and have in my life. Let your words speak to you; find ones that spark and light you up!
We can’t forget the stories we tell ourselves! Yup, I’m talking about belief systems. These can assist us in our desires, or they can entirely stop them from ever manifesting in our lives. They are like strong, deep roots buried deep within our psyche. Just when you think you have almost uprooted one, you find little tendons, strong as hell, holding on. I believe we can never fully eradicate some of them. History, trauma, culture, and an array of other influences keep them rooted.
What we can do though is water ones that serve our desires, grounding us in how we truly want to feel.
Come up with 5 beliefs you want to have for the new year, preferably ones that assist you in staying in your desired feelings. I suggest spitting them out without much filtering. Allow yourself to know what is good for you!
My 5 beliefs I will keep close:
- Life is on my side; it wants me to flourish.
- My inner world is perfect just how it is.
- When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
- Laughter is the best medicine.
- I have the power to nourish what I want in my life.
Cheers to staying true to what you desire! Cheers to another year! Cheers to being here to experience it!
Much Love,
Kristina Ann
Check out my core desired feelings I posted previously, way back in 2013!